Goals of interpersonal effectiveness include creating a space for people to meet your needs, to do those things you want them to do, skills to get others to take your opinions seriously. The aim is to strengthen current relationships, build new and satisfying relationships, and end those relationships that are unhealthy or toxic. It is important to create and maintain balance in relationships, and balance change with acceptance.
Interpersonal effective skills are not naturally inbuilt, they need to be learned. Emotions often get in the way of building healthy relationships. Sometimes our automatic negative thoughts about ourselves or others get in the way of finding new relationships and/or in ending toxic ones